Sometimes I wonder if the Earth is so dry because we refuse to cry. The Earth shows us what’s inside our heart - a world devoid of feelings and emotions. we smile, we laugh or we’re angry and frustrated. But we don’t vibe. don’t ache. That is for the weak.
but emotions are everything. It is the essence of an experience. Without them, life becomes a sequence of facts. Where only accomplishments matter. Accomplishments are like highs - adrenaline rush. But don’t seep into them too much, otherwise you might get disappointed.
When did we learn to fear our feelings? When did we shut off the most interesting and humane part…the most intriguing and divine too. As much as we judge ourselves forour greed or jealousy, they are often the open doors to love.
What’s Actually Happening
Imposter syndrome isn’t a character flaw or a sign you’re in the wrong place. It’s a threat response. Your brain has learned (often from early experiences) that failure = rejection or shame, and it’s trying to protect you from that outcome by staying small and perpetually preparing for exposure.
The voice that says they’re going to find out you don’t belong here is trying to help you. It’s just using a very unhelpful strategy.
The Comparison Trap
Much of imposter syndrome runs on comparison — specifically, comparing your internal experience (all your doubts, false starts, and behind-the-scenes chaos) to other people’s external performance (their polished presentations, confident LinkedIn posts, and curated highlight reels).
It’s like judging your kitchen against a restaurant’s dining room. The comparison isn’t fair, and it never will be.
Practical Strategies That Actually Work
1. Keep an Evidence File
Create a document — physical or digital — where you record every compliment, achievement, successful project, and positive piece of feedback you receive. Don’t filter it. When the imposter voice gets loud, open the file. You’re not looking for certainty; you’re looking for data to balance the distortion.
2. Name the Voice
Giving your inner critic a name creates distance between you and the thought. “There goes Gerald again.” It sounds silly. It works. You can’t think your way out of a feeling, but you can create enough space to choose your response.
3. Talk About It
Imposter syndrome thrives in silence. When you confide in a trusted colleague or mentor that you’re feeling out of your depth, you’ll almost always discover they feel exactly the same way. The shared vulnerability shrinks the shame and recontextualises the experience.
4. Reframe ‘Fake It Till You Make It’
This phrase is often unhelpful because it implies deception. A better frame: act like the person I’m becoming. Identify what confidence would look like in this specific situation, and take one small step in that direction. Action comes before feeling, not after.
A Word on When to Seek Support
If imposter syndrome is keeping you from applying for roles, speaking up in meetings, asking for a raise, or pursuing what you actually want — it’s worth working with a professional. These patterns are malleable. They came from somewhere, and with the right support, they can change.
You are not the voice that doubts you. You are the one who hears it and keeps going anyway.